Monday, 31 March 2014

26 Greatest loves of my life - Let's call him Adam. #atozchallenge



In Grade Prep my favourite game was kiss chasey, especially if Adam was playing.  It took days before someone was brave enough to suggest another game. Some kids protested, but most of us had our secret missions planned.

It was the only game of tag, where I didn't mind being 'it' first. Maybe it was his lanky legs but Adam was always easy to catch. When it was his turn to do the chasing, I would slow down and deliberately skip across his path. The hardest part was making it look like we didn't want to be caught.

Adam's mum let him buy me a hair clip with a butterfly on it, and I was the first girl to get an invitation to his birthday party. It was a weekend party and the first I was allowed to go to on my own.

On Saturday morning his present was wrapped. Mum was making alterations to my party dress and I was playing on my favourite tree. A big walnut that doubled as my acrobatic bars. I tried to do a back flip off the sturdiest branch and I crash landed and broke my wrist. No party for me. Doctors orders.

We didn't have a telephone. I had no way of telling Adam that I couldn't make it to the party.  I tried everything to convince my parents I was well enough to go. I even begged them to take me, so I could give him his gift and tell him I couldn't stay.

I was sure he would be upset, maybe even drop me. I thought about running away. I pretended my arm didn't hurt. I cried and yelled and got my knickers in a huge knot, until exhaustion finally wore me down.

By Monday morning, the martyrdom on my left wrist had set. Armed with Adams present my Mum dragged me to school. We met Adam and his Mum at the gates. He'd saved a party bag of lollies for me. My cast became the centre of attention.

I told Adam I wasn't allowed to play games like chasey.  He suggested I walk instead of run. It made perfect sense to me. So we waited, until someone was brave enough to say "who wants to play kiss chasey?'


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26 Greatest Loves of my life #atozchallenge
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I wonder if the next two times I broke my arm was for a similar type of attention?

Have you ever played games, or bent the rules just a little, to get closer to a person you love?





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83 comments:

  1. I did other silly things to get attention. Braking my bones...not in your life!

    Hugs and chocolate!

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    1. it wasn't intentional thats for sure - thanks for the hugs and chocolate

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  2. Cute. Now, where were girls like you when I was in school?

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    1. Thanks Alex - there weren't to many boys buying hair clips (with butterflies) for the girls they liked either.

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  3. Aww This is so endearing. I hope the rest of your loves were as sweet. :)

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    1. There's endearing lessons to be learned in mistakes too.. right? :)

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  4. I certainly didn't do it for the boys...and it stopped me from going to the party

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  5. I don't remember the physical pain at all :)

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  6. Hi Kate and thanks, our Mums thought we were adorable too. There is hardly any trace of him online - though I think he still lives in the area we grew up in...

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  7. Aww so cute! :) your series are sure gonna be entertaining!!

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  8. What a beautiful, innocent love. I remember playing kiss chase as primary school - I think they banned it later, no idea why, it was completely innocent.
    Tasha
    Tasha's Thinkings

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    1. I'm pretty sure they have banned it now - I don't even think kids are allowed to hug each other anymore.... It was innocent and very sweet.

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  9. We never played Kiss Chasey here! We missed out! While I have never broken anything for attention of a love interest I'm sure I've done other stuff ... Now, knickers in a knot and lollies I'm familiar with!

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    1. I never broke anything intentionally - I just wondered if, on a subconscious level, injuries equalled affection...

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  10. We played kiss chasey when i was in 6 year old grade.
    The girls were so smart to steal some lipstick from one of the moms.
    WE ran after those boys with fully red lips and when the bell rang for class, they looked like, well war heroes. hahaha!

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    1. Hahaha - now that's a funny story - and shows an obvious difference between kids born a couple of generations apart :)

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  11. Aww. I love this post. So adorable and innocent. I never tried to break anything for attention, but it would have been less embarrassing than my attention seeking attempts. Sigh, memories :) Can wait to read more!

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    1. I'm intrigued Elsie, I would love an to know your embarrassing story. I can't imagine anyone would deliberately break bones for attention...

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  12. Hi Ida .. I can relate to this .. I never broke my wrist - even though we had a walnut tree! Somehow one of us ... may be the brother himself (of my desire!) smashed his thumb in the car door as it was shut - .. that must have hurt too ...

    Lovely story ... cheers Hilary

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    1. Ouch - Hi Hilary. I think that walnut tree was my first true love. I spent most of my childhood in it, and a good deal of time reminiscing about it as I wrote this post. :)

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  13. Such a sweet post of that tender love of childhood! I really liked how you describe it.

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    1. Thanks Beloo, wouldn't it nice if love was always tender

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  14. I will have to google Kiss Chasey... never played it, but I loved your post. How sweet of Adam :)

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    1. It's like any other game of tag, except when you catch someone you have to give them a peck on the cheek :)

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  15. He saved you lollies!!!

    Awwwwww! <--- really, I just said that at my desk aloud!

    I cannot *wait* to hear about your loves, what a great, great theme!!!

    Cristina from Filling my Prayer Closet

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  16. Painfully cute tale! I don't think I broke any bones, but I did go out of my way to see my guy.

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    1. "I drove all night" - haha oh the things we do - thanks Loni

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  17. Loved this story about a long ago love. So touching! Can't say I've tried breaking any bones to win a man's attention. Sweet story that made me smile.

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  18. It's basically chasey or tag, but you get to kiss the boys haha or run from them if you don't like them.

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  19. I feel like I have replied twice too - #atozchallenge day 1 haze :)

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  20. Aww, what a cute story! I love that Adam saved you lollies and knew you hadn't abandoned him for no good reason. :)

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    1. His Mum might have had something to do with it, but he really was very sweet. Thanks for dropping in Dee

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  21. Too too too cute Ida :D loving ur tales of love theme and waiting to read em all :)

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    1. I wish they were all so sweet...but in hindsight they usually are :)

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  22. What an attention grabber, especially the boys. I thought the story was a fun one, and look forward to reading more.
    http://www.writer-way.blogspot.com

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  23. Aww.. so cute.... :) Butterfly clips and Lollies.. He sure would have been a sweetheart.. :P :P
    Waiting for more....

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    1. I knew there was something special about that butterfly clip :)

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  24. Haha, cute, though I'm sure it hurt. But when it comes to matters of the heart, we deal with anything. So nice of Adam to save a bag of lollies for you.
    I didn't play this game, but when we hung out, I tried to sit as close as possible to Ian, a boy I liked. Oh, the good, fun days.
    Silvia @
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    1. Funny I don't remember the physical pain, but the injustice of not getting my way that day is easy to remember. The good fun days indeed, lucky Ian :)

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  25. ps, forgot to say significant that his name was Adam ..I'da been an Eve in that situation .. xx

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    1. It all started with Adam... I'da's been Eve in similar situations xox

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  26. I love your theme. Adam was dead cute!

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    1. One of the reasons I loved him :)

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  27. That's a cute post, Ida! Do you still have that butterfly clip as a keepsake? http://www.ilakshee.blogspot.in/

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    1. I wish I did - as it was I struggled to remember exactly what it was

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  28. Aw I love this tale, brought back memories of Kiss Chase at our school too, behind the shed (wasn't a bike shed though just a general shed), surprisingly close to the school when we could have actually gone further down the fields away from the teachers... I'm sure there was a reason for it at the time!

    Mars
    Curling Stones for Lego People

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    1. The back field was just to far away - perhaps?

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  29. That is so cute. I remember kiss chase. We called it catch and kiss....

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  30. Ah, a broken ankle bone and crutches got the attention of this guy I had a steamy crush on. He helped me carry my books to class one day. He never knew I existed before or after but I still remember that walk down the hallway 30 years later. 30 years???

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    1. It's easy to remember how someone made us feel. You probably didn't need him anymore...after :)

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  31. That was adorable! <3
    I've done some things where I would try and make sure I bumped into a guy in the hall or at the mall or whatever, but never bent the rules. I still find it hard to bend the rules when I know them so well. :)

    Jamie Dement (LadyJai)
    My A to Z
    Caring for My Veteran

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    1. yes some were but only very briefly. I was always so incredibly shy :)
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  32. What torture during your first love - we've all had at least one of those "I must get to him and can't" experiences and they are truly gut-wrenching. I'm now watching my 7-year-old with her first love - it is sweet, innocent and oh so familiar. Great start to your April.

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    1. Familiar indeed... gut wrenching is a perfect description. I wish your daughter all the best in all her love adventures

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  33. Such a sweet innocent love. Sad about missing the party.
    Childhood is the best age........
    http:// www.inderpreetkaur.blogspot.in

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    1. I think at that age it was the worst thing that had ever happened to me... missing the party that is :)

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  34. This is such a sweet story, other than the broken arm!! Thanks for sharing. :)

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    1. Thanks Jaimie - and your right that broken arm was no fun at all

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  35. Very sweet story! :)

    Long time... and glad this challenge made me come here again :)

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  36. you must have been adorable in your little party dress. kiss chasey, lol.

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    1. No party - no dress... kiss chasey was a lot of lol

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  37. We played kiss chase! There were a few lads I had my eye on at primary school ;P This is a lovely story. Poor you, but Adam saved you stuff :D
    Sophie
    Sophie's Thoughts & Fumbles - A to Z Ghosts
    Fantasy Boys XXX - A to Z Drabblerotic

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    1. Thanks Sophie. I was only miserable for a day or two the rest of the year was bliss :)

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  38. Awesome post. Reminds me of a boy I once knew . . . ~MPL

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    1. Thanks M - I hope they are all sweet memories

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  39. I'd put money on it... haha what else could it be - chased plus kisses = kiss chasey or some version of it. Especially at that age.

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  40. I don't know if my phone is letting me comment, but I'd just like you to know that this is adorable and I can't wait to read the rest :)

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  41. ahh, I feel your angst at not being able to get a message to Adam! Heartfelt post; looking forward to the rest! Gail at Making Life An Art

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  42. Great post! Have fun with the A to Z Challenge. Although I can't participate, I'm proudly displaying my Supporter Badge on my Blog for all of you. Enjoy and I'll be checking out as many blogs as I can throughout the month! Lily - Eva

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  43. I have broken my leg back then in grade 10... :P :D for a similar reason!!!! I know that feel :P :D Nice start!

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    1. I didn't break my arm for any other reason than I was fearless and lacked good balance :) but it sure gave me more than I expected in the way of attention - thanks iamstri :)

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  44. So cute. I played chaseys with my first boyfriend in kindergarten and kissed on the school bus. I don't remember his name though. :P

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    1. Kissing on the school bus takes it to a whole other level Mary - and you don't even remember his name haha woo hoo :)

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    1. It is a cute story - I forgot about the butterfly clip until I started writing about it... :)

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  46. Yes Corinne - indeed I do, some of the other stories people have mentioned in their comments are so sweet/funny worth sharing :)

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  47. Sucha cute tale...but ouch indeed..glad it was not intentional though!

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  48. Lucky Adam! I think of your flying off the tree as a description of how you felt inside. Ready to jump, ready to party! Not attention seeking at all!

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  49. Hi Ida, I really like your theme! This first post is awesome, very funny and entertaining. Just like so many commentators above, it made me think of my own experiences. thank you for sharing.

    PS: I love how you've linked Aussie expressions to urban dictionary - never thought of that!

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  50. @ Kajal - Thanks for commenting

    @Rebecca Lord - I wonder if I would have been more careful in the future if he hadn't have taken it so well. I spent years flying off that tree :)

    @Lena Lawson - I love the experiences others have shared in the comments for the same reason... Urban dictionary has it's failings but can be useful, I've even thought about just sharing a google search page too :)

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  51. AWww... This is so sweet, Love your Theme :)

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    1. Thanks Ananya, my family teased me about this boy for years... that was kind of cute too :)

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