tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post6928029107033648556..comments2023-08-19T06:56:17.780-07:00Comments on Reflex Reactions: 26 Greatest loves of my life... Let's call him Ken. #atozchallengeIda Thoughthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15479961947050289284noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-65921509444026743362014-04-14T15:26:16.065-07:002014-04-14T15:26:16.065-07:00Yes let us not forget we were only 13 (and my moth...Yes let us not forget we were only 13 (and my mother wouldn't have been happy with what we were up to) Sometimes I think people are just as bad, and much more accepting the world over. I do think it's getting better though :)Ida Chiavarohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15479961947050289284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-33737925764284913012014-04-14T15:23:05.486-07:002014-04-14T15:23:05.486-07:00amuzin bemuzin - I would never have been brave eno...amuzin bemuzin - I would never have been brave enough to kiss a boy anywhere near the vicinity of my mother. I'm pretty sure my budding romance would have ended before to long regardless :)Ida Chiavarohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15479961947050289284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-20036433754089652792014-04-14T13:24:28.232-07:002014-04-14T13:24:28.232-07:00It would've been one thing if his mom just did...It would've been one thing if his mom just didn't want him dating yet, but to stomp on a relationship simply because you weren't greek is so wrong. I hope people are more accepting now. Great story, thanks for sharing. Stopped by to catch up on last weeks letters.Jillian Lisa Pearlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13078661039365312437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-63250463172030232882014-04-14T11:47:05.825-07:002014-04-14T11:47:05.825-07:00Dang. Relationships are complicated enough without...Dang. Relationships are complicated enough without a third party interfering. :)Chuck Allenhttp://atoz.chuckallen.usnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-4500239621839537692014-04-14T10:21:43.392-07:002014-04-14T10:21:43.392-07:00Oh my - I was smiling and nodding and breathing th...Oh my - I was smiling and nodding and breathing through my nostrils until that awful Mom got in the way of a budding romance!! What troubled times we all had, eh? "beginning to get complicated" describes it in a nutshell. \<br><br>I know I drove my Mom crazy chasing me and my hormone-raging junior high boyfriend around our barns and outhouses. She just knew we were up to no good (except good makin' out!!)bemuzin.comhttp://bemuzin.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-49185082163096183132014-04-14T01:07:09.067-07:002014-04-14T01:07:09.067-07:00Hi Guilie, I now see clearly how wrong I got the o...Hi Guilie, I now see clearly how wrong I got the order of this post, I would have preferred to have you laughing at the end... but a laughs a laugh, right? Losing Ken sounds so dramatic lol - and likewise re: the comment love :DIda Chiavarohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15479961947050289284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-42741713728351132282014-04-14T01:03:38.307-07:002014-04-14T01:03:38.307-07:00Racism was quite normal back then...it was a tough...Racism was quite normal back then...it was a tough life for immigrants (still is). I fought against it from an early age, I never expected it to come from other immigrants :) - I'm pretty sure my Mum didn't take my childhood secrets seriously enough to ever bother checking through my diaries... and if she did she never told me.Ida Chiavarohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15479961947050289284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-59719496704072742442014-04-13T08:49:40.572-07:002014-04-13T08:49:40.572-07:00Aw, Ida--you made me laugh, then you made me angry...Aw, Ida--you made me laugh, then you made me angry, then you made me sad. How unfair, yes--and how representative of reality. I'm trying to remember if I ever had a third party break up a relationship of mine; I'm sure there must have been, but I can't think of any instance right now. I would've felt so furious--and so helpless, especially if the reason was race-based and nothing to do with me personally. I'm sorry you had to learn about the complications of prejudice by losing Ken.<br><br>Thanks for stopping over at <a href="http://lifeindogs.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow"> Life In Dogs </a> yesterday--always love seeing your name in the comments :)Guilie Castillohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09006999087139126972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-32787469645819479772014-04-13T08:16:30.036-07:002014-04-13T08:16:30.036-07:00My mother NEVER looked at my diaries or my mail. S...My mother NEVER looked at my diaries or my mail. She said her mom (who was otherwise perfect) snooped in her stuff and she vowed not to ever do that. I passed that courtesy onto my children. As long as they didn't give me reason to go through their things, they could have their privacy.<br><br>Sorry about the racism. How stupid. Huh?Teresa Powell Coltrinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02160774009926623671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-54734369599365683732014-04-13T04:36:05.592-07:002014-04-13T04:36:05.592-07:00Ah to get do harsh when u guys were just kids...I ...Ah to get do harsh when u guys were just kids...I pity that boy...how many girls were disapproved by his mum as he grew eh?Aditihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07881690136782545422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-76228241393845864812014-04-13T01:57:54.392-07:002014-04-13T01:57:54.392-07:00mid 80's there was nothing modern about this t...mid 80's there was nothing modern about this type of parental monitoring...She thought I was some wanton woman (girl) that was going to take her son's innocence away, before her over reaction, we were innocent.Ida Chiavarohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15479961947050289284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-36488354879337239182014-04-13T01:48:33.656-07:002014-04-13T01:48:33.656-07:00Really Gary, I wish you had have read my Jeremiah ...Really Gary, I wish you had have read my Jeremiah love story instead... I hate to be responsible for for reminding you of unfair ripple effects... but I dare say, it was the ripples that led me to seek out boys with really open minded cool mums :)<br><br>Thanks for coming, I'm always thrilled to see you again.Ida Chiavarohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15479961947050289284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-21750618062251242402014-04-13T01:45:01.855-07:002014-04-13T01:45:01.855-07:00Glad you can see the funny side of it Missy... I j...Glad you can see the funny side of it Missy... I just re-read and laughed again too. Ida Chiavarohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15479961947050289284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-41733635864730927892014-04-13T01:44:27.830-07:002014-04-13T01:44:27.830-07:00I reckon... but seriously if you saw a love letter...I reckon... but seriously if you saw a love letter to your 13 year old, would you tell him/her off because someone thought they were amazing? That goes beyond controlling... Ida Chiavarohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15479961947050289284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-91426449323554402842014-04-13T01:43:11.315-07:002014-04-13T01:43:11.315-07:00It was short lived, I think I loved the kissing mo...It was short lived, I think I loved the kissing more than him :) Ida Chiavarohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15479961947050289284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-73624870197486236902014-04-13T00:33:19.552-07:002014-04-13T00:33:19.552-07:00I'm glad i was just 13I'm glad i was just 13Ida Chiavarohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15479961947050289284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-39622766262000567492014-04-12T20:30:06.080-07:002014-04-12T20:30:06.080-07:00Thats some tough lesson early in life. Its not a g...Thats some tough lesson early in life. Its not a good idea to open others' letters even one's child. I am not happy about this modern 'parental monitoring', I think we parents should be confident in our kids and about the ideals and values we have taught and ingrained in them. Being around and non judgmental should help as well.Archanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08719830256296245535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-26387854733339097762014-04-12T14:35:32.571-07:002014-04-12T14:35:32.571-07:00This is a bittersweet story. There seem to be peop...This is a bittersweet story. <br>There seem to be people like Ken's mother in every country in the world.Romi Chttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10798019837658682377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-62220219171080849252014-04-12T13:23:42.818-07:002014-04-12T13:23:42.818-07:00Oh my, haha, poor Ken having a difficult mother to...Oh my, haha, poor Ken having a difficult mother to deal with so young.<br>But i guess lesson learnt the hard way.<br>Love it!Miss Bateshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15470916297169631502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-91582394160602127452014-04-12T12:32:50.012-07:002014-04-12T12:32:50.012-07:00Gosh - controlling mother. Although I guess I may ...Gosh - controlling mother. Although I guess I may yet turn out to be the same. Piper Georgehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16197485495704578081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-71153562955851734422014-04-12T10:50:21.453-07:002014-04-12T10:50:21.453-07:00That's a tough experience. I've definitely...That's a tough experience. I've definitely been there too, so I sympathize. <br><br>Thanks for visiting The Busy Mom's Daily.Cherylhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03470069911115912344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-83379909129114736932014-04-12T08:18:58.719-07:002014-04-12T08:18:58.719-07:00Oh, yes, I've been there...Oh, yes, I've been there...William Kendallhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00331324250821836822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-34829714372252034652014-04-12T06:55:28.431-07:002014-04-12T06:55:28.431-07:00Thanks Heather, funny how we learn the same lesson...Thanks Heather, funny how we learn the same lessons in different ways...Ida Chiavarohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15479961947050289284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-26688345651781707412014-04-12T06:53:31.781-07:002014-04-12T06:53:31.781-07:00I'm still a little while away from heartbreak....I'm still a little while away from heartbreak...but it certainly was shame inducing and disappointing. Thanks Hilary.Ida Chiavarohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15479961947050289284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349028882566941779.post-64940760784174405622014-04-12T06:51:34.287-07:002014-04-12T06:51:34.287-07:00I've see-sawed between both heart breaker and ...I've see-sawed between both heart breaker and broken... Sometimes I just didn't want to see itIda Chiavarohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15479961947050289284noreply@blogger.com